There is so much we experience that can lead to our hearts feeling heavy. First off, it is absolutely not a character flaw. It is crucial for us to feel things, so I encourage you to embrace your feelings, rather than pushing them away, keeping them at surface level, or treating them like they don’t exist.
1. Feel things, just don’t wallow in the sorrow.
2. Be honest with yourself. Seriously. Keep yourself accountable, or have a friend keep you accountable. Don’t treat something like it’s “nothing” if it’s really affecting you. Be real with yourself – and you will gain healthy insights and reflections. If you want to keep it personal, I encourage you to write about it on a personal blog, or in a journal. Write everything down. Write down your feelings, why certain things are affecting you, and keep it focused on yourself. I recommend turning these feelings inward with completely honesty, rather than turning them outwards in the style of a rant, or a negative spiral of emotions. It is important to have a place to vent, and rant, but it is also very important to have a place to be openly honest with yourself and your feelings.
3. Create a solution. So you are hurting about something – and you’ve gotten it all out in the open. Now what? Whether the cause of your hurt is in or out of your control, find a solution. What will help your heavy heart rise to the surface again? It can be a simple phrase to keep you going, or a physical action.
4. Remind yourself that you will get through this. You’ve been through this heaviness before. Maybe this time it feels like wading through molasses, but chances are, if you are reading this article, you are determined and hopeful in the act of healing your heavy heart, just like all of the times before.
That is all.